CD, I totally understand and get why you are so angry- what you describe is just horrible.
But, like others have said, don't react in anger. Your kids are the ones who will really suffer from it. My only advice is to take a breather, go dim, and collect yourself before you do ANYTHING. You might come to the same conclusion later, but at least you will arrive at that decision with a cool head.
I feel for you on the OM. I believe my H is with an OW as I type this, so I get it. But 25 is so right, you may surprise yourself with what you can forgive. One of my goals is to be able to look my D in the eye later in life and say, I did everything I could.
