Thanks. Yeah, you're right. She'd want to date the guy I used to be - funny, social, spontaneous, thoughtful, sensitive.
be him^^^ again. Be the better choice. And be the best dad you can be. It matters more now than ever...
Yeah, thanks MLC. Am rapidly becoming that guy. It's tough though.
Today I offered to make her an omelet. She said "only if it doesn't take you 30 minutes. In the past, I have had to run out of the kitchen and put the stove on minimum to take care of the kids when they are fighting or have to go to the bathroom. So sometimes it takes 20 or 30 minutes to cook what should be a 10 minute omelet.
So right after she made the comment, she went upstairs to fold the laundry. 5 minutes into the omelet, one of the kids starts screaming for me so I put it on low, go in and start dealing with it. She yells from downstairs "can't you handle the f'ing kids"? So I reacted poorly, saying "Yes, but just don't yell at me if the omelet takes longer than you want" to which I get an instant scream: "Shut the F up you fing ahole...you're such a dick. I HATE YOU!".
This has been a pattern for a long time. I make a slightly objectionable comment and she reacts with extreme rage and verbal abuse. How to break the pattern? If I say nothing, she thinks i'm a wimp and can't stand up for myself but if I argue then i'm an a-hole.
Maybe the answer is next time just make myself an omelet and don't bother asking if she wants one too?
Could really use help as if I can figure out how to deal with the unprovoked rage, that will be a huge step since it's a daily occurence.
