if filing is truly the only way (VC, are you sure you're in the same state? Just asking)
and it's the only way for you protect yourself, then
I think you have to look at it like he is an alcoholic. Do you want to keep letting him drive you and son around in the car if he's drinking?
But I just want to make sure you have your facts right.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016