W is moving out.....life goes on...

[25yearsmlc]

25 years--- i checked on the EE workshop. I noticed the next one is early november-== i don't think i can go since school will be in session. Are there any other workshops you can recommend that would be sometime in mid/later December on my winter break?

call EE to ask. They usually only have 2-3 a year. I've been to other workshops and this one (EE) is by far the most profound. I mean, I doubt it'd hurt to go another one as I have, but there's no comparison to me.

And think hard about not going in November. It's perfect timing for you. And With your DC, I would bet anything she'd allow you to miss ONE and 1/2 days of work. Geez, it's like wellness days (or sick days or whatever they call them there).

It begins on thursday night and ends Sunday night (but if possible, take monday off to process some more...or whatever--take what you can get)

Keep up the PMA and do the GAL

this program works if you work the program (sorry if that sounds 12 steppy, but..so what?)

and in discussions with your w, I'd suggest you SAY LESS, not more.

Make sense?

Let her solve her own puzzle. You cannot put the pieces in the right places for her or stand hovering over her shoulder telling her which piece goes where.

If she ever loved you deeply and if you were ever a truly happy couple

let those memories resurface as they MUST, IN TIME.

..but the more you stand by to remind her of them--the longer it'll take for her.

In the long run, her moving out probably is going to speed up the resolution of this, either way. That's not all bad Mary...

and of course, fight for your boy. I understand the issue of an adoptive parent versus the caretaker, but my GUESS (semi educated one) is that a family court would at least listen to the "best interests of the child" argument
and that's a little leverage you have, vis a vis HIM...

Keep on keeping on. Are you on Anti-depressants yet? Hope so. And I say that as a person who used them so I could get off the

damn highway of negative thinking & looping around, never taking an exit ramp to SLOW down my looping and negative spiraling,

and really SEE my life and what direction I wanted. Meds can help with that. Also helps with not blurting out stuff you almost always regret later.

Many hugs

((( )))