In doing more reading, I find myself convinced that STBX is a "stealth narcissist" - it explains why he's "done this all before".
I know that it doesn't change anything, but it does help me understand - and anticipate - things. I actually feel better than I have in 2 months. I'd been beating myself up, saying 'How could he discard everything we had? How can he say the same things to her that he said to me? How can he toss away his son?'
Well. Because that's what they do.
AG, I was reading your thread and saw this, so I Googled "stealth narcissist"...wow. Just...wow. It is my W. And your H. And DG's H. And probably to some degree every other WAS being dealt with.
The questions you've been asking yourself have been the same for me, but the answer is also the same: WE DO NOT OWN THIS; this is their doing. They chose to walk away and embrace some unexplainable fantasy. They chose to lie, or cheat, or both. It's the height of selfishness, dishonesty and deceit.
I'm very sorry for the pain and confusion this is going to bring to your S7.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
