Regretful and not sure how to proceed

[25yearsmlc]

good stuff^^^ here, READ this post^^ again,


Yes she's into the alien spew (but YOU must be participating in some way b/c she's not going to talk to herself about you like that

unless you are engaging. So Stop that).

And welcome to the evil twin we all have, to some extent. My h said some vicious things to me

and I probably did to him (well, in truth I KNOW I did).

I told him he was a selfish and deceitful bastard, for one, and we're still m!

Oh and he told me I was sociopathic when I said I had no regrets about quitting my job to be a sahm after he left--so the kids would have ONE parent at home--yeah, I was just sitting here eating bon bons and watching soaps.

(One of these days I need to buy and eat an actual bon bon. What are they?)


I am making light of this, a bit, b/c it's NOT new to me. We've all heard amazing things from our spouses at this time.

I want you to STOP ENGAGING and stop the pleading. It's worsening the sitch big time. The best thing you can do now is be quiet.


Let her hear from your L if need be re: your son.

Who knows, maybe you can argue she's so unstable that she is unfit...(I know, that's low. I just thought if we were going to vent here, I'd toss out that grenade to shut her up in my mind...make sense?) But let YOUR L tell you the options and be willing to find a FIRM w/resources that specializes, not some solo practioner.

As for the c, she MAY have said the RELATIONSHIP is toxic...and it is right now.
but your w is selectively recalling I think.

I seriously doubt she'd play both sides so much. BUt please get a new one anyhow, just so YOU can feel safe and in a trusting place.


Back off, detach, and watch the MLC parade go by. Sit down with some popcorn and let it happen and wash past you...you have NO control over this anyhow.

do NOT engage.

This will pass and you will be happy again.

I promise. This does get better.