I agree with Jack. I keep thinking "walk softly and carry a big stick" and I have no idea where I'm getting that from--you can google it--it's probably a movie or something ;-)
Sometimes I really wish I hadn't been such a Pollyanna when my XH did this and then roped me in for several months of "bliss" only to THEN drop OW on me...but that was him. Don't let that make you make assumptions, but be very careful as well...
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying