A good friend told me today " I think your XH texts your D's as a way to stay in touch. He's had time to think about what he gave up and lost, and this is his only way to reach out." Sure enough, when I got back to work, the SOB had emailed ME. Wanted to know if I had everything out of the house, and could he go through it before it was auctioned. First off, I have exclusive rights to the house until it is sold/auctioned, that is months down the road, and he cares WHY?? Then, he signs it ____________. His nickname as a child. He is in full denial that he is a grown grandfather about to retire, whose body is shot. I replied, gracefully, that I was not finished, still had some things to box up for sale, move to my new house, etc. Signed it Punkin H___ ( my maiden name) I guess if he can be six years old, so can I. He reaches out to the girls, then to me. Is he crazy? No, don't answer that. I already know the answer. We have 12 grandchildren together, and are about to have 3 more in the next eight months. Most of them haven't seen him in almost 2 years. I asked my 4 yo gs who a pic of Santa was, and he said "Papa?" Not even close. AARRGGHH!
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
You're trying to understand that mind? And that would be becuase you are masochistic?
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Oh Punkin....you are a sarcastic and clever woman and therefore, would totally be in my crew if you were in my area ;-)
You sound good...even if he does not. I think you're strong and capable and doing really well, despite his spewing. Beatrice posted on my thread recently about how they all seem to be "spewers" or "goodguys" and I guess yours is the first--mine is the second. They all have their BAD points (did ya think I'd say GOOD points? Nope ;-)
Keep the faith. You're doing great :-)
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying
Just an update to what's been going on with fabulous me! LOL
Fall is finally upon us, and I am close to having the former home place cleaned out of anything I want. I have to force myself to go out there. Working on my bedroom, and putting final touches on my kitchen. I've been eating like a horse, cooking entire meals for just me. I've always been a "ah, just make a sandwich" type.
Found out that, of course, the Divorce Decree is not worded exactly right for the Army, so I have to get a reworded one. ( More money for the Lawyer.)
My D 23 that was living with me has about resolved her probem with babydaddy, and it appears only her luggage is living with me at the moment.
I'm getting more hours in at work and asked for a raise yesterday. Ballsy, ain't I? Now if the old house would sell and XH had to start paying the alimony, things would be rosy. Not to mention if he would go ahead and retire.
My personal life is quiet, and I am happy with that. If my children are happy and my grandkids are well, I am happy Occasionally still let my wander to the WHY'S, but I know there is no simple answer for that.
As Eric reminded me, 'It's all about justification' with the X, and he is right. I just wonder how far justification can carry you?
Low and behold, there is ice water in Hell. XH contacted me and wanted to know if I would consider going ahead and 'putting the pace on the auction block, as we both know it isn't going to sell', to "get this shizbot over with"
I reminded him that the shizbot, as he so eloquently put it, was the last 20 years of my life. And to consider that his part of my half of nothing was nothing. He then asked about the taxes. I told him I had my half, but they wouldn't accept just half. Did he offer his half. Nope. New wifey must be doing something on Thursday night's between 9 and 10 p.m., as that is when he emails me.
I didn't respond combatively, just honestly. As my oldest D puts it, I'm still having to spell out the details for him to understand.
