Hi there, I'm only new here, like you, so don't profess to know much (and my posts also seem to take forever to get up!).
But I came across this reference from Silveryposter on Newcomers: 'Trying not to hope is hard'.
It's helped me straightaway to see how my H probably feels about me when I backslide into trying to tell him how things are, that he's wrong, or when I just let my anger at the situation boil up.
