Alas I feel you are correct on this as well. The odds don't look good for me.
Sigh...reality for me is GAL for myself and deciding where my journey takes me. I struggle with missing my WAW and mourning our relationship, but must keep my eyes looking forward.
Spoke to an attorney yesterday, WAW comes out ahead. She can walk away from the mortgages, I have no way to recoup paying for her Ivy League graduate school and the earning power that comes along with it, and no way to recoup the down payment on our property. Despite being together for 18 years, since we live in California, the clock only started when we got married about 5 years ago. For someone who feels "victimized" and I'm the cause of her unhappiness, this is all a very bitter pill to swallow. My practical task now is to start sorting through our belongings and finding a place to live. Not fun....
Ridiculous. I'm so sorry you have to deal with all this BS. First of all --- internalize the following : YOU are NOT the cause of HER UNHAPPINESS!!!!!!!!!!! Regardless of what YOU may or may not have done, you cannot make anyone else happy. She needs to put on her BGP and own her feelings.
Finding a place to live. HoRRIBLE. If you are the LBS it makes me so angry.... the WAS should ALWAYS be the one to leave. It's their D@@@ choice to break up the family!!!
Hang in there.... I'm watching for updates!
Me (f): 45 W(f) 35 T: 13 y C: S4 adopted at birth 6-18-11 bomb: I want to break up 8-28-11 OW confirmed
