oh picturing your spouse with OP is TORTURE. Use thought stopping techniques --- like MWD says, a BIG RED STOP SIGN. I imagine them together way too often, and it's a real horror. DON'T!! *yes, i know it's easy to say and hard to do. I struggle with it all the time!
You said: I am finally understanding the truth of the DB technique. For me, at least, it's a slow process of turning the focus off of my relationship/marriage and back to ME. It's hard, because I am a FIXER if ever there was one. But it's slowly dawning on me that I have to save myself first...and if I can save my marriage at some point down the road, then that is a benefit. But I have to take care of myself now. Remember all of this. You have to take care of YOU now. That is the only hope for your M and/or YOU. Make yourself your own project. Love yourself. GAL and enjoy what you can in areas where you have some control. Take care!!!!!
Me (f): 45 W(f) 35 T: 13 y C: S4 adopted at birth 6-18-11 bomb: I want to break up 8-28-11 OW confirmed
