Here is what DR says about "the Ultimatum" pp. 230-31
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"You can deliver a message such as this face-to-face, in a letter or e-mail, or over the phone. How you do it really doesn't matter. That you do it does. Your spouse will either take you up on your offer or decline. However, s/he might react defensively at first and then soften a bit. Wait a fwe days to see what happens and then, if s/he hasn't responded, ask for an answer. Then act. Either schedule a therapy appointment with a solution-oriented therapist, or go see a good attorney."
Step 3 in DR says to "Ask for What You Want."
Somewhere along the line the message is getting cloudy on the forum.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
