MLC Only lasted 1 month? It seems unlikely....

[Willing1]

My W dropped the bomb 4 weeks ago, "I am unhappy in our M." So, here we are a month later and we seem to be doing much better. I don't know what to think. I am moving forward with my counselor and GALing and it would be nice to think the worst is over but I am afraid to trust what she says. I want to believe it but I thought we were ok a month ago and look where that got me. I guess it doesn't make difference either way from the standpoint of what I need to do. I am becoming a better H and can see 2 distinct pieces of the puzzle: A) I could have done a lot better job and been a better H. I was focus more on me than was healthy (no matter what the reason) and failed to see where she was struggling. I failed to do my part to meet her needs and now see that she benefits from 'touch' and 'time' and not 'acts' and 'gifts'. Ok, that's part of what I learned. The other portion of this is that I am a good guy with plenty of good qualities and I don't need my W to say that I have value and worth for it to be true.

So, where do I go from here? I have not finished the DR book and maybe the answers are in the book. I would really like to think that our R isn't hanging by a thread or that my W won't have a change of heart tomorrow or the next day and drop another bomb (or worse, a more painful one....) I consider myself very lucky compared to what some of you have gone through. At least for now, it does not appear that there has been an EA. This is so exhausting..... Any thoughts you might have are welcome.

Willing1