I'm sure many of you have varying ideas: social life, hobbies and private life, anything to fight the seratonin imbalance brought on the "bomb", anything to take one's mind off the "sitch".
Allow me to offer just one perspective.
I was in the chapel the yesterday questioning and listening. GAL activities felt somewhat artificial to me, "fake it till you make it" kind of stuff, and now that I am already D and for the most part off the emotional coaster (detached), I just prayed and wondered where to go from here.
You see because I recall Aloneat35's post linked above. One spouse's boring is another spouse's contentment (that's me). One spouse's lack of emotional fire and intensity is another spouse's emotional maturity and stability (that's me).
So for me, GALing is not "necessarily" doing specific things, it is in the end "radiating." Radiating your life, (your GAL) of happiness and contentment and peace.
You radiate from inside out, not from outside out. Essentially, you live (or GAL) from the inside.
Peace, Pic.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
