I was DB'ing but just discovered an affair

[jbnati]

NTX - I am glad your dates have been fun and things seem to be going well for the most part.

On the other hand, she occasionally mentions something about the future... last night she said once that she doesn't want to ever get married again. I didn't know what to make of that, so I didn't respond.

I wouldn't focus too much on this at all. I wouldn't put a whole lot of stock in it. This is especially if you buy the "believe none of what they say and 50% of what they do" adage. She sounds like she really doesn't know what she wants right now.

Interestingly, I am kind of enjoying my time alone right now. The house is completely spotless and I've been doing things I like to do such as going to the gym more, yard work, and enjoying a cigar occasionally on the patio in this wonderful weather we are having.

This is the way to be. Make the best of a bad situation. It is what it is right, might as well enjoy it. I think deciding to enjoy it is a good decision anyway.

Just take things one day at a time right now.

I'm not sure where this is all heading right now... and most of the time I am not even sure I care one way or the other.

Sounds like you're feeling some ambivalence right now. Just go with it.