Somehow, when I read all SSMGuy and Tea's assumptions and explanations of how their wives feel ... I just can't buy it. They don't ring true to me, and seem more in the realm of mind-reading and self-justification than genuine understanding. They also don't explain why many wives in the same situation of denying sex for years suddenly have torrid affairs. Denying, controlling, rejecting--those are all the actions of bitterly unhappy women. I think YAH is correct that they stem from anger, not from complete satisfaction in half-marriages. It would be interesting to hear from some of these women--I'm sure that, as in all other types of marriages where communication has broken down, the stories from both sides would be shockingly different.
