Epilogue

[Telemark]

Thanks, all, but I'm going to stick with my plan...here's why:

1. I told her I would not be at the house when she came by; if I'm there now it could look like I'm overseeing her and acting like a security guard. Besides, there is nothing much left for her to take. My computer and file cabinets are all locked.

2. Since the OM is arriving today, she will be looking her best. Seeing her anytime is hard enough on me; seeing her dressed to kill, and knowing it is for the OM, is just more than I want to deal with.

3. I want to go as dark as possible, so I choose not to have any face-to-face time for now.

Sidenote...W asked me if I had removed her name from the mortgage already. I told her no, but I did have the paperwork ready to be notarized (it's referred to as a Quit Claim Deed in PA). I asked her if she had done anything about filing online:

W: No, I haven't done anything yet.

M: Any reason why you are waiting?

W: I don't feel the need to rush this.

Now, I'm sure somebody will 2x4 me for asking about the D. I was doing all I could do to keep my marriage alive (although I made plenty of mistakes along the way) even though my W told me several times she no longer loved me, did not want to be married to me, etc. When I received the news that the OM and his mother were moving in with her, I decided I was done. I no longer felt desire to save my marriage. I do not want to be married to a woman who is living with another man. The D, painful as it is, sets us both free from each other. At this point I'm ready to move on.

So why doesn't she feel the same?