Do what I can but still have questions 4

[soccerwife]

MC session was very strange yesterday. H was nervous and agitated but I was cool, calm, and collected. We started off the day with him trying to take two seperate cars, luckily I had planned for this and had a rock solid reason why we had to ride together. He was angry and tried to bait me into arguing but I didn't bite.

During the session I was a great listener. The counselor got some stuff out of him that he had never opened up to me before. The counselor was also able to state some things in a way that really got H thinking about the error in his methods to happiness. I almost wanted to laugh out loud a few times.

Without a doubt, we left that session closer together rather than further apart. Thanks to DB coach Laurie's advice I was able to have an agenda and stick to it. I planned for the worst, hoped for the best, but expected nothing. And, what actually happened was somewhere close to nothing plus a little bit of good.

H claims he does not want to go back to MC because it doesn't help the situation and in fact actually makes him feel worse and want a D more. However, his actions say otherwise. During the session, he conceeded that he doesn't know if D is actually what he wants. He only wants to see a mediator to see how much D is going to cost and what arrangements would be made with the kids. Basically, he wants us to discuss what D would look like but he doesn't know if it will actually go that way.

So, I made progress! Just a couple more weeks and I will get H to say he is willing to work on M! Some words I have been living by lately.

Committment
Good Will
Honesty
Diligence
Persistance
Hope
Faith
Sincerity
Love