Once the paperwork is filed and the state of Wisconsin says I am no longer married does that make it ok for me to see other people? I don't get it. There are TONS of people on these boards that are in serious loving relationships with other people and they are still in the divorce process. "waiting for the paperwork".
Those people, the ones that are in serious, loving relationships, probably weren't sincerely returning their spouses "I love you"s just 3 weeks ago. They don't use words like "until" or "maybe". They've made conscious choices that no longer involve anger and entitlement.
TAMF,
No one here is judging you. I know it feels that way, LORD do I know that it feels that way, but it just isn't so. That glass house Jack speaks of it ... we all know I lived there too. So I'm not throwing any stones either. But I will tell you that experience does give one some perspective and that wonderful 20/20 hindsight.
Don't just want truth when it's easy to swallow. Push yourself to see past the initial sting and dig in for you ...
Here's the thing ... hate, resentment, anger ... those feelings are not the opposite of love....
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
