Reflection

[GAL Man]

Let's call this post - Grenades!!!!!

During our conversation

Then grenade 1
Out of the blue W say's "you said that if either one of us started seeing someone it would be the final nail, is it?" (W has been seeing someone for a couple of months now)

I responded astoundingly "is that a question"

W then changed the subject, and I let it go

W then started to talk about work, health etc, but I calmly stated that it didn't want to discuss these things and to only concentrate on the finances etc.

W then went back to the issue of the kids, and again I explained my case, and said I don't know how many more times I can say the same thing (which has been said in text, email, verbally and in my solicitors letter) that I was always happy with the previous arrangements, only wanted S12's child benefit, would not take W to CSA for maintenance, or file for full custody.

W said she thought I would take her to the cleaners over the kids as they clearly want to spend the majority of the time with me, she thought I would apply for full custody, go for both benefits and claim maintenance. I AGAIN stated this is not what I want, and that morally to me is not right, that I didn't care what others say, that I am doing what feels right to me in keeping with my morals and beliefs what is right, and that it was just wrong and that I want W to see the kids and just wouldn't do that.


Then grenade 2
W said she expected me to react differently (this is what I had been told right at the beginning from her Friends) and has noticed how much I have changed!

I said I loved the new me, and the kids see this, and maybe one reason why they like being here more.

Move general discussion, where I kept pulling it back to financial settlement as she kept on about why the kids didn't want to be with her so much, and looking for me to provide the answers. Said, why are you the great F'ing dad, you were away a lot when u were building your career, I was the one staying home with the kids, why why why etc. I said you sound very bitter about that and I don't know why, we build everything together, that how we worked it, W say I am!!!!


Then grenade 3

W - I am so angry and bitter over all this

Me - I understand, I'm sorry you feel that way. You said in your text you despised the ground I walk on

W - No I don't, I didn't mean that, I was just angry and things I have done in the last few weeks has been due to this

More general chat


Then grenade 4

W - Who is x

Me - ????

Me - just a friend

W - Well who is she, where do you know her from

Me - Work, I have known her years, she is just a friend who has split up with her H and we talk about things

W - Well where does she work, how long have you known her, how do you know her

Me - She is just a friend, I'm not getting into this discussion

W - Well does she work at x, or at y, where do you know her from

W - Well be honest with me, I don't want the kids having loads of different "aunties"

Me - I am not getting into this discussion sorry

WTF


Then W says can we meet up to discuss my decision on the finances, I say no need to as we can do that via email, W says she hoped we could do it in person and wanted to be friends.

So that was the meeting, and clearly why I need to distance myself again, for me, as no matter how cool and calm I was, together with being very centred on what I wanted to discuss, I feel W is in a very strange place, even though, as you would expect, she portrays something completely different, but hey, could be wrong....

More of the last weeks coms coming soon LOL