Reflection

[GAL Man]

I text W stating that I would be willing to meet and discuss things, W was, as usual abrupt first, then questioning, then light-hearted, which I couldn't understand

We met last Wed

W showed up having had a spray tan, which I didn't comment on.

Throughout the 1hr convo I was softly spoken, calm, continually brought discussions back on track, and stood up for my beliefs. My main phrase throughout was "I'm sorry your feel that way" where appropriate.

The main aim of my request to meet up was to put a financial settlement proposal to her, which I did. I explained all of the figures and how I got to the offer, which W wasn't too happy about but understood how I got there. I moved slightly increasing the offer by a couple of grand to show cooperation, and said it was on the table to the end of the week and to think about it.

W then moved on to the kids and why they didn't want to spend as much time with her, and I explained that it wasn't for me to tell her or preach what is right or wrong, and that she had to figure things out herself. (Lengthy discussion pursued, but I stuck to my guns, in the past I would have caved in!! so nice 180 there)

Then W said that she hasn't changed to how she was before moving out (which is completely opposite of what she had been saying) Hmmmm strange

W kept saying she didn't understand as she left me, not the kids and was happy with her choice