I know what you mean. WABF recently initiated a long R talk (he did most of the talking) and I was left feeling exactly the same - should I have reassured him? Did I say something to push him farther away, etc?
But in the end, I just had to drop it. Who knows what it meant. If there's real change, you'll know it and won't have to guess at it.
In the meantime, just keep doing what you're doing. At best, she sounds like she was putting feelers out - weakly (as you pointed out) to see what was up with you and somehow tenderly let you know she'd spent a day reminiscing and perhaps wondering if she made a mistake - but clearly not doing much to reconcile that if she felt she had ... just keep being the guy any woman would be a fool to leave (as 25 or whoever it is says).... I'm sure there will be more convos like this. Stick to your guns about the friend thing if that's what you want.
I also get this odd sense she's looking to you for soothing somehow. But I can't explain that. Like trying to appease her guilt ..
