Are there any midlife women who want daily sex?

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It is quite possible to feel warmly for and care deeply about someone at a level to decribe in it terms of connected.

It is possible to have touch and not have it at all be sexual.

AND it is also possible to feel greatly betrayed and disapponted because one's EXPECTATIONS of how a sex life might look within marriage a much less and much less satisfactory than you expected.

It could be a dealbreaker but it's more a matter of the disappointment one settles with rather than being a "dealbreaker."

Just because you have nuclear weapons doesn't mean that you have to use them because something doesn't meet with expectations.

But there is also another side...the sense that no matter what (and it becomes clear that IS the situation) there can be no effect on the sexless marriage (unless you actually use the nukes, in this case ending the marriage, not threatening to do so, but to actually go through with ending the marriage).

And the question is how much do you want to overturn your life just to get NO RESULTS?

The problem isn't that there is no sex, the problem is that these women see no value in sex.

None.

Zero.

Nada.

Zilch.

And the way to know is in their actions.

I have 14 years of actions (and lack of action) as evidence. SSMGUY also has long-experienced similar issues.

Venting here is a way to speak out the frustration, to know that we are not alone and maintain some sanity in the face of a hopelessness of a non-sexual life for the rest of our marriages.

The Captain