you ARE trying to work on YOU, to grow and improve as a man and father.
You want to be your best self, etc. You can say you accept that she feels it's too late but these are changes you wanted to make anyhow, and "better late than never", etc.
This echoes something I read somewhere else on these forums. I do think it's extremely important that W knows that my happiness is due to the changes I've made in my life, not because I'm happy with the state of our relationship. I can't think of a way to present this, however, without it looking like I'm trying to convince her of something. Maybe it'll just come out in a no-bullsh!t moment when we are just being matter of fact, or perhaps it will come out in MC. Either way, I think it's important she knows, if she doesn't already.
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BTW, you are only a year away from finishing school right? You can work at your career path and still play some venues pursuing your musical career too right?
3 years, however I've been playing open mic nights for several months now, part of GAL as well as something I've missed doing for myself. Glad to meet some fellow aspiring artists =) No matter how old we are, we will always aspire!
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Hang in there. And don't see yourself as a failure or she will too.
Thanks, a little encouragement goes a long way. I've saw myself as a failure for the middle part of our marriage, and had only begun to reshape the way I thought of myself in the past 3 years (since going back to school). She must not have reshaped though, because that was one of the things she said early on in bombland, that I failed at everything. Regardless, I've been consistent for this entire process, while improving my confidence and ability to deal with this situation daily. Thanks in no small part to DB and the folks on this and another forum I participate in. =)
