Thought it would be done by now...part 3

[25yearsmlc]

hadn't seen this post when I posted my last one. I'll respond more later but first, never say never....silly really.

You discussed forgiving HIM but you won't forgive you?

Geez Maybe HE is right, you would not forgive him "completely" if you won't do it for yourself...

you did what you did with the tools you had then. And you made some choices that were lousy.

Oh Sorry but were you in the Saint Club and now got kicked out?

I thought you were in our "Humans Err Club"....

Allow me once to repeat myself (again!!)

"Mistakes are not tragedies, but dear God let me learn from them!"

I am working on two buttons right now. Just never thought of them as buttons.
Also, I can't forgive myself. I will never let it go. THere is a thread of truth to some of the things. So, how do I forgive myself for something that led to the demise of my marriage?!

What led to the demise of the marriage was 2 people making mistakes...and then ONE of them hiding a shitload of theirs'

and drinking a lot and then using even worse judgement in decision making

and cheating on his wife and leaving the whole family.

Once again I say, Life,

if this were really all about what a lousy WIFE you were

why isn't your h fighting FOR THE KIDS?

Were you ALL horrible people, except him?

You're starting to not think so straight. Work on it and make a course correction so you get this right in your head.

Don't let him suck you into taking ownership of HIS choices...geez what a pattern!!

And no, that doesn't mean I'm glossing over your flaws. Tell us them if you like. I am betting you whined and nagged and criticized b/c he was gone a lot and you felt neglected.

That's a total guess b/c you never mentioned other issues...

so you own them, you work on them, you become a better partner so the next man you are with

gets the best of you.

Maybe it'll be h, maybe not.

But work on you and maybe as you see/feel yourself growing as a woman,

you'll find forgiveness easier.