Thanks. Good points. I really did ignore her. Slowly at first but increasingly for 5 years. To the point where she was very very alone. She had post partum and I didn't see through all the screaming and verbal abuse how alone and how much pain she was in - so I put her on anti-depressants and continued ignoring her (I didn't realize I was doing it) She started complaining about all the child care duties and housework so I started taking on more and more of that as a way to make up for my financial failures. She also lent money to my business which is now gone along with both our credit scores.
I am guilty of hurting her deeply and extremely remorseful.
