They (and you) miss out on comforting your spouse in times of mourning,
or comfort and reassure when there is fear of the biopsy results,
or joyous celebratory sex when you child gets married or graduates...or you GET THAT DREAM JOB...it's for all the
warm or frightening but touching MOMENTS in life
that you want to share...FULLY...with your mate. Fully connect, fully share.
Though you might not think so, we do have those connections. Just as I do with other members of my family, and I obviously don't have sex with them. I think for people who ML often, all these things get related emotionally. I would speculate that my experience has made love and sex more separate for me at this point.
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If you were okay with no sex, I'd say nothing. But you are not okay with it. And it's not just sex you are doing without, but all forms of physical touch. How sterile.
We do have touch, just not sexual touch.
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Not wanting you to touch her breasts or her womanly parts is
pretty odd for someone having sex. What was allowed, eye contact? HOW'd you have kids?
She was OK with intercourse, just not all that "touching and feeling up", which somehow reminded her of stuff she wasn't supposed to allow.
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First, It's NOT about whether she likes sex, but about whether she loves you.
She does express her love for me, and she's very considerate in other ways. Just like your mom or dad might have been to you.
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IF she truly loves you and isn't harboring some wacky anger or other "issues", then she would naturally want to please you EVEN IF she has zero libido.
Now that I have learned how much more a sexual relationship can be, I'm not excited about going back to just being serviced by someone with zero libido and zero arousal after a lot of cajoling.
