As a mod: I believe the point was of possible hypocrisy. In so much that, despite how much want our OP to be different than...an OP...an emotional affair, a physical affair. It's not. It's still an affair. And our justifications...are no different in the end, than our spouses.
Are their differences...yeah...but the one that stung me the most?
We aren't the ones in an MLC....we did/do this with eyes wide open. We don't have the excuse that mommy and daddy didn't love us enough...just our crazy spouse at the time.
That is coming from inside my glass house TAMF. Not throwing stones at you or anyone else.
So just to clarify, my M is over, dead. And I am not saying that has anything to do with getting a divorce. a piece of paper doesn't mean a M is dead. It took me a long time to realize that things would never be the same. If there is to be a Mr. & Mrs. TAMF then it would be a totally new relationship.
That being said, and the fact that he physically lives with the OW - They have started a life together -I am not married anymore. I am not having an EA because I am no longer married in my heart and mind (btw, I am not having an EA anyway because it is over).
Once the paperwork is filed and the state of Wisconsin says I am no longer married does that make it ok for me to see other people? I don't get it. There are TONS of people on these boards that are in serious loving relationships with other people and they are still in the divorce process. "waiting for the paperwork".
Suddenly I am just as bad as he is and a hypocrite. only with my eyes wide open so therefore I am worse than he is.
TAMF m:41 xh:41 T: 20 M: 15 D: 16 D: 14 Bomb dropped: 7/3/10 separated: 7/15/10 H moved in to new apt. with OW: 7/1/11 divorced: 8/26/12
