Feeling alone and frustrated with a 180.

[dearme]

I have to wonder what it will be like if/when we start to come back together - to start "piecing." I am a little afraid that I will begin to rely on her again. My GAL efforts have not been that strong, and I can't think of anything for me that I love so much that I would be motivated to hang on to it if W and I were back in love.

I guess over the course of the relationship, especially through parenthood, I have largely lost myself. My whole life has become all about providing for my family, being a good father and, less successfully, a good husband. If someone asked me about ME, I don't really know what I would answer. And I guess I am just realizing that it's hard to love that way. My love seems less full when I am not anyone independent of W and kids.

This. I can definitely relate to this. You took the thought right out of my head