Yes, lc hit the nail on the head. I wouldn't let her have full access without you or someone being there. I've even changed my locks and my W and I are still mostly amicable and dating occasionally.
Me: 43 W: 37 Together: 18 M: 15 D: 8 yrs old ILYBNILWY: March 2011 She Filed for D: August 2011 She moved out: Sept 1, 2011 Reconciled: May 2012 Divorce Case dropped: July 2012