Treading water - time and patience

[NYCPeter]

So we had MC earlier.
Focus was on improving dialogue and interaction.

We were asked to pick a topic - I talked about work and how I am concerned for my job and the pressure I am under. She didn't bother to validate or try to understand my perspective. Her response was "You have never been out of work, so you will find a job no problem", I felt she was trivializing my concerns and she waved them off - I wanted to say "As the only person working full-time it adds even more pressure".

W talked about intamacy and how she found it difficult to show me any intamacy. She said she wants to, but she feels she's not "being true to herself" when she does. She says she feels I pressure her for more intamacy when she doesn't want to give me a kiss or a hug, and that sharing a bed may have been a mistake, but felt it was a step we needed to take. She said she feels she's been in a battle and when the other side suddenly wants to make peace she can't do that.

I validated and said I would put more of an effort to not put pressure on her. The thing that confuses me most is the not being "true to herself" - if she truly feels that way, then why is she even trying? If deep down she's not being true to herself when she shows me any affection.