The 'trick' about buttons...is like any problem the first step is realizing you have one.
Once you do that? Now it's not the other person's fault, not truly, when you react poorly when they are pushed. Now it's mostly on you.
Do you know what your buttons are?
Identify them and...if you have more than 2...limit it to working on the 2 biggest ones.
If you know someone (husband) is pushing your button on purpose to get a reaction out of you...one he is counting on. You can laugh..because when you DON'T react the way he wants you to? Now he gets upset. Oh..yeah...and then he'll likely try to mash that button several times.
But for each time you don't react? Increases the chances he'll stop pushing it; not right away, but eventually he should. He'll also start looking for other buttons to provoke a reaction...more than likely.
Actually getting rid of a button? It is very hard if not impossible, the first step, and really the only step you need...is to not react to it. That in time...is how you either remove it...or become numb to it.
Oh...one more thing. You don't let him push the button. You do however, let yourself react poorly to it.
All about you. All you.
Not him.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
