Not quite in midseason form...yet

[MadeToSucceed]

I think it is one that I can give. Even in my M, I never really cared a ton about the Words of Affirmation. It was just knowing that what I was doing was being appreciated and for the most part I think I can honestly say that my wife appreciated my efforts. I think she underestimated the time and energy I put in but she appreciated the end result. So I suppose my truest LL is Acts of Service and Physical Touch (sexual). I do feel loved when people do things for me but very simple things...my W would sometimes have dinner ready when I got home or bring me lunch to work. Those kinds of things. I was never big on grand presentations. Just simple stuff. And Physical Touch in the sexual sense helped me feel connected to her. This died off in our M relatively quickly and I believe it to be because of the emotional disconnect, lack of trust (on either end) and I suppose her not feeling as attracted to me anymore.

I believe my W's LL to be Quality Time and Physical Touch (non-sexual). So when I was continuing to try to do this, that and the other FOR her, she was more interested in us just sitting and talking or something of the sort. She was also a big hugger/snuggler. She'd come and just want me to hold her in the mornings before work sometimes. Those are areas I initially neglected but had become much more in tune with around Thanksgiving of last year. And subsequently, those are also the areas I miss most.