Harrier, Personal attack? I think not. Consider it like a slap back into reality. Some people are more receptive to gentle hand holding, some are so caught up in their anxiety that they need a slap. Virtually of course. It's a guy to guy thing.
Okay, so I read through your list. It's all good with the exception of the cutting off communication part. You doing so is a reflection of the fear you have for you W. What you need to do instead is to keep the communications with your W to a minimum not cut it off. This involves you taking the initiative and starting the conversation. It doesn't have to be anything long or earth-shattering, just "hey what are you and the kids doing?" kind of thing. Don't call often, just every now and then.
You have to show your W that being in a R with you is worth it. You can't do that by shying away from her. You don't need to go dark. Have you actually read DR or DB?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
