TM, what about a friend being at the house while she is there to make sure there's no funny business going on (I wish I had arranged for that when H moved his things out)? I'd like to think that SURELY she wouldn't bring OM to your home, but unfortunately, I don't trust that she won't. Do what you need to do to feel like you are protecting your home (and your heart). Either way, I wouldn't bring up OM in any way to her. Don't even acknowledge that sad situation.
I can only imagine the sick feeling you got when you learned OM arrives tomorrow, but think of it this way...the emailing/texting/living in fantasy land "honeymoon" is going to be over real quick when the reality of 4 people (including an elderly woman and adult child, both who have needs) living in a 3 bedroom condo with an energetic dog (I have lots of things in mind I'd like for the dog to do to OM or his belongings, but I'm going to keep it classy! ) comes crashing down. Seriously, that is a very stressful living arrangement and would be challenging for the strongest of couples. Wonder if he has secured any employment yet? You mentioned she was having some financial difficulties (or at least things were tight for her), so I'd add some money issues into that bag, as well. That makes me feel .
I'll be praying for you, friend, (especially tomorrow) as I know this is a very difficult time. I will say that I firmly believe that there are good things in store for you. Try to enjoy your weekend (sounds like you have some good GAL plans). We are here for you!!!
) comes crashing down. Seriously, that is a very stressful living arrangement and would be challenging for the strongest of couples. Wonder if he has secured any employment yet? You mentioned she was having some financial difficulties (or at least things were tight for her), so I'd add some money issues into that bag, as well. That makes me feel 
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