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Kissak

I guess in my mind that I thought as long as my H and I were married, there was still that chance...

Have you heard the fat lady? I haven’t.

Im afraid of all I will have to figure out on my own.

WHY? Lack of self esteem? If so, then why? That Kissak is the question…why do you give YOUR H so much credit over EVERYTHING you have done?

Im afraid of starting over with someone new

Who says YOU have too? When the time is RIGHT you will not have so many fears about being with someone else. When YOU feel and truly UNDERSTAND and BELIEVE your own VALUE, WORTH, etc. then you will realize so much.

Financially Im scared to death.

Instead of just being scared what is YOUR plan? If you do not know where YOU are going, then it is impossible to figure out the road map.

Living on my income and child support and trying to run a business which is like running another house hold is NOT easy when the economy is bad.

Life aint easy! HOLDING on to someone is also NOT easy. Can you stop for a second and BELIEVE that YOU REALLY are strong enough? Consider your options….
Stay paralyzed by FEAR, roll over and give up OR (I hate to say it) put on a pair of BIG GIRL panties and get to getting!

I would love to sell my business just to get out of the hole ive fell in since he first left me!

Then sell the f’er.
I have learned that a person can never REALLY succeed if they are always afraid to fail. Failure to me, means that you have the courage to take a chance, that you are not afraid to live your dreams, even if you fall down.
Kissak, give yourself a little more credit, you have had to deal with your H chit for how long? How much stuff has he put you through? How much have you tolerated? Damn girl…you are stronger than you give yourself credit for.

but even acknowledging them doesnt make me feel better

Then don’t just acknowledge – ACT! Do for YOU Kissak. Do what YOU need to do for YOU.
You have kids, they need a role model – that task right now falls on you.

I think I will only feel better when I have successfully gone through all of them and come out the other side.

I agree – so what are YOU waiting for?

Kissak, what is stopping you?

You say that IF H wanted to come back right now, you would not take him back. Understandable, then what WILL you do?

LIMBO – exists as long as WE allow it to.

Take a stand Kissak, for YOU , for your kids and believe it or not for YOUR H.

Now, what exactly are you afraid of…..’cause ya only barely answered PEI question.