I think that 25yearsmlc has given you some really great advice. I would echo what she is saying....own your mistakes and apologize for them and dig deeper into your W's anger, as she probably has good reasons (in her mind) to be angry with you.
I was amazed at the deeply held anger for things done 25 years ago that my wife held up until she had to confront their destructive impact on our relationship, so was she.
Good luck to you and your W.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
