if he gets a L, it'll be near the end of the 2 weeks, I'm guessing.
I actually believe it usually is the "loser" spouse who leaves the winner. Not by an overwhelming statistic but often enough.
My older sister was a great catch and my sil (oldest brother's wife) was too. Those women both got left by men who were NOT GOOD h's...(my brother is reltionship lazy, pure and simple. No drinking too much and no temper but just wants near zero expectations other than pleasant behavior from him and benign neglect...and fidelity b/c I don't think he'd cheat but that's also b/c he weighs 300 lbs. HE left my beautiful "looks like Andy Mcdowell" Sil...
I'm still close to that sil, but she was crushed by my brother at the time. And yet that sil is happier than ever, b/c she's with her new (10 years) h. That man raised their daughter...and he's NOT relationship lazy by a mile.
My older sister got left by a selfish cheater. HE's now miserable and she's happy with her new (7 years) h who worships the ground she walks on.
Winners leaving? Um, my younger sister gained a ton of weight after marriage, never had a job or child and her handsome pilot h left her. But only she was shocked. We were shocked he stayed so long. So he was sort of a winner and she wasn't. She never took any responsibility for not bringing anything to the table. And she always said things were "fine" between them. We knew better.
She fell apart when he left, utterly...and finally remarried and that guy was nice but died. So then she was a widow. She pulled herself together finally, got her nursing degree and is happily involved with a man 10 years younger...go figure.
You know, if her first h had not left her, I think she'd have done nothing with her life that mattered much. Ironic.
You'll make it to the other side if you make sure you put the kids/you first.
No one knows if your h will come around and be the man you want him to be.
My gut says IF it happens, it's not this year.
His discomfort levels w/OW have to go up so much that he has to decide the work of rebuilding the m is worth it.
That means bottoming out. AND Then reaching up.
Not happening really soon I fear. But that's kind of good for your detachment right?
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
