U guys all crack me up - total honesty here. you know the other guy is a LBS - yet we have to be secret on the boards and not say who it is. There are more of us out there than people think.
The OP is one of the greatest guys I have ever met. And because of what he has been through and what he knows I am currently going through he has removed himself completely from the situation. I am so proud of him (even though it is painful for me). I even have to laugh because I have tried to contact him in my weakness - and he has gone "dark". ;)pulling that DB stuff on me why don't ya!lol!
Just a thought, may be OP was all part of the divine plan. Who knows?
I've read where a few LBS's succumb to rebound; seems to be part of a process or journey. I know it seems like using the OP, but don't be too hard on yourselves; it always takes two to tango. It's not as though OP doesn't enjoy your company for a while.
I haven't met any OP's yet and not looking. But sometimes I wonder; it's normal. A friend of mine who has been D for 10 yrs, told me that his XW freaked out when he started seeing an OP. I suppose it has to have some effect, not "reaction" mind you, but "effect".
Of course with my luck, I'll finally meet someone interesting, just when XW and her OM are falling apart and her MLC fog is beginning to lift, and then I won't get to enjoy my new OP. LOL.
Right now's not the time though. May be after a few years. I'll be in a better more forgiving place. Right now I wouldn't take her back based on pure emotion, fear, anger, victimhood, righteous indignation, you know all those grudgy things. But I will get to that place; it's on my journey.
Posted this before: "Don't confuse forgiveness with insanity." Forgiveness is letting bygones be bygones and not holding your pain against them. Insantiy is making yourself vulnerable to their crazyness all over again.
It's not just me who has to change. XW does too.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
