Had a call off my wife saying that I would only see the kids Mon,Wed,Fri, as we have agreed, I said fine, but what's changed, she said that I had caused a lot of upset with her parents?? End of call
About 1hour later her mother rings me to say that the have had an argument last night, and that her father was not happy with a man being around our kids!! He was that upset he went to the house at 7.30am this morning to check he wasnt there!!!!
They had been talking all morning again, and they have told my wife that she is being irresponsible to our children, that the OM just comes and goes, he has no ties to her, he is causing disruption to her and our kids, and her father said he's just using you for a bed when he's in town!!!! He said he thought she had more sense but obviously not!!!!
It then all calmed down and they are on speaking terms!!! But her parents have told her they don't want any man near our kids, full stop!! If I'd have said that it would sound like I was being bitter, but from them she will listen.
Just after the call, my wife calls, she says that she wants to be friends again, and wants it to be like it was over the last few weeks, I told her I felt the same but was hurting. She apologised if what she said about our daughter was mis-understood, but wanted to move on??
I then asked about OM, she sounded confused??, I said that there was no real future there, only hurt for our kids if they found out, she understood, but said they would not meet him??
I said I don't think he really wants to met them either!!
She said again that if I hear anything about him,to tell her and he's gone!, I said just trust yourself and don't listen to other people, anyone can be made to sound bad from the wrong person?
She agreed, I then said we need to try and look at us, she never said anything, I said look what we have been through, and look at what we have both learnt, and changes made, again no comment from her, so I continued!!!!, I said I have always loved her, I messed up, but that was gone and I'll never go back to the drunk moody person again, I said that our children wanted us back, I explained I don't want to bring the kids into it, but they were involved, and they just want us all back together, again no comment. So I just said I'll leave it with you,bye
Now I step back, the seed has been sown by both me and her parents, she is starting to doubt the whole situation I think?
I honestly don't know where I am right now.
I have to pull back and wait for her.
I have to say i'm more settled now, she wants to get on, and apparrantly told her parents the same? She told them she just wanted to be friends again.
The whole seedy affair is out in the open, people close to her have disapproved and she is in doubt.
