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[In_Shock]

I'm so sorry to hear about this latest bombshell. When my W said she wanted to split up - I was pretty much ok with it at first. I figured, --we've been through a lot in 13 years. She just needs space. Etc... etc....

Well, 2 mo later I found out for sure there was someone else and like you it hit me like the TON of BRICKS and there i was. Devastated again. It's normal - especially if she has lied.

However, using DB principles, confrontation is probably NOT what will work. I have been struggling to keep myself 'above' W and the lowly OW. I will be the better choice and not even acknowledge it. It's hard b/c we live together still....but I am keeping my class and my dignity.

Let W do what she is going to do. Give her space - and keep your focus on YOU and kids. You can be the better man. You ARE the better man - remember that and act accordingly.