Affair (continued II)

[awest1217]

Chris, I agree with 25. You need to do something for W on your anniversary, but nothing pushy. Keep it simple and fun. I really like you getting her a great card just simply state how thankful you are to still be together and how you love her. Nothing about sorry or anything, but just looking forward without saying it. Nothing too long, because that would be pushy...once again simple, fun and sweet.

Second, plan something small like a night walking through the park, especially with the cooler weather and leaves starting to change. It could be beautiful and just talk like you would on a first date. Don't bring up the future or MC or anything. Think first date and have fun. Get some coffee or cider or cocoa and just impress her like it was your first date. Maybe even go outside before your date and ring the door bell when you pick her up. This last part may be a little too much, but have fun planning it. Keep it simple, fun, and light with no expectations of how she will react. Like don't expect a kiss or holding hands or a hug, first date.

For her b-day get her something for her like a massage or facial gift card or a manicure/pedicure. Something that she can use to pamper herself, which will show her you care about her well being. Say something like have a relaxing day because you deserve it. Once again nothing about your R or anything, but it is about her and the gift and simple words will say it all.

I could be totally off with all of this because I never got to reconcile, but it is what I would have loved my XH to do. So if I am way off please someone tell Chris.