With mishka, I think also it is very important to have D9 get a full re-evaluation. The tantrums she has and melt downs seems to me (and I could be wrong), but seems with the extra ones that there may be something else also affecting her behavior, which if diagnosed can lead you to good therapy ideas to help her and you. Some of the issues don't show up until later in life so it is always good to get that checked again. I know XW wants to be in charge, but it is ok for you to suggest some ideas and express your concerns as well. Maybe keep a journal of when she blows up at school or home when she is with you and see if you can find similarities or causes. It is so important to help her now, and just holding her back won't help. She needs some direct support on social interactions, which will just help her more later. Holding her back could help with the academics, but negatively impact her behavior. I say ask for a full re-evaluation and see where that leads.
With kml, a date doesn't have to be expensive. I know the dates I remember most are ones like going on a picnic or walking through the park and getting some ice cream (or with the colder weather a coffee) that could cost less than $10 and be a lot more fun. Try to think out of the box and creatively because the money shouldn't stop you from finding a new friend, and even a possible new relationship because you deserve it.
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