More changes!!! This has been a real rollercoaster!!!!
Last night I'm in bed, 11.00pm, phone call its my wife!!
I panicked, thought something was wrong and answered it.
She asked me what has been said between her parents and I, as they have spoken and had an argument, and that her father has had a go at her over her attitude to our daughter, and he mentioned that she was in a hotel with OM, she knew that had come from me.
I said that they had called me to discuss how the kids where and I had mentioned it to them, I said I was sorry but I was hurt and angry and should have said nothing.
She was then asking what I knew about OM, I said nothing, she was pushing saying that she knew I knew something, and if it was bad, she wanted to know.
I just said that he must be good to her, I don't know him personally, and she should make her own judgement. I said I don't want to be getting involved in her business.
She was pushing for answers, I do know he's a cheater, and cheated on his wife, I also know he's not totally commited to my wife, I know a lot of people, and I find out alot!!! but I'm saying nothing!!!!
She then asked that if I know anything, or find out anything would I let her know, I said no. When she asked why, I said that she had to make her own mind up, I don't want to get involved, I don't want to speak to her, and that we cannot be friends whilst this is going on.
She was asking why can't we be friends, I said that we have gotten on so well recently, that we had really bonded again, and then she stops being friendly, when he's around, she denied it!!
I said how can we go from talking everynight, for over an hour, to nothing in a few days, she said that she was just being nice and that she was just showing concern over my AA meetings, I said you were that concerned you rang me every night, we spoke for over a hour, I never called her, she always called me!!!, again no answer.
I just said I'm hurting again, I knew I would!!!!, that I had to avoid all contact.
Again she was questioning why??
So then its back to what I know, etc, I just said, he might be a great guy, and she should enjoy herself, I said it's obviously been going on a while?, she said yes, Xmas!!!! I had my ideas, but that hurt, but I was also in a strange way relieved as I knew it was going on, but had no proof, but if he is coming and going, there is no real pattern to confirm anything, but a lot of things made sense.
She then said that if I knew anything about him that was detrimental, she trusts me to tell her and she will dump him ASAP!!!
I said why if you are happy, she then kept saying about him messing about behind her back??, not sure if she has an idea, but she kept mentioning it??
I again just asked not to get me involved, my only concern was the kids, she had to make her own mind up.
She was then saying that she wasn't going to be messed about by him, and she will dump him ASAP if there is anything??
I said I don't want to be involved, but said there is no real future with them, if he was introduced to our kids, they would flip!!!!, she agreed, I said he was just having some fun when he was about, but I don't think he's looking for a ready made family, she didn't say anything, she knows i'm right.
She then asked what do I think she should do???
I said that's for her to decide, but she knows that I love her, I want the best for her, I want her to be happy, and if this guy is doing that fine, but I don't think she is??
I said that I miss my wife, that lessons have been learnt, and my only advice is she should dump him, we go to marriage councelling, I said this was based on nothing other what I think is best for her, me and our children, she said nothing, at that I said I'm going take care and bye.
WTF!!!!
It is obvious that reality has set in, it's out in the open, she cannot use and lie to people for child care, so she can have "fun" and the excitement of creeping around with OM
She seems to be having doubts about him, she was very open about dumping him??, seems strange if he's so good, or was it just talk??
But she now is alone, she cannot play me, or her parents!!
I now maintain silence, I stay pulled back, and what happens happens.
