Thanks all for the advice. Now she's covering up on her own - maybe she's getting used to being separate also.
A little BG. We were totally happy and head over heels for 7 years - day in and out. Then I started a company and started ignoring her. Company collapsed with eceonomy, had twins, almost got forclosed on, couldn't find work. Pulled it together as a contractor but it's inconsistent.
She is now in biz school and having this EA. She told me about OM to be 'respectful' before anything happened. Now she is saying if we didn't have house and she wasn't in school we'd be divorced tomorrow. Said she is keeping an open mind but right now doesn't see us fixing it.
this is not an answer, okay?
We want to help YOU b/c you are the one here posting. You are all we can help and you are all YOU can control.
What has SHE Complained about in the marriage? You say you ignored her and you seem to explain it away due to finances/new company.
This is too generic. Either you are not digging deep enough or you are avoiding real issues.
What are her complaints? Are any of them valid? What are YOU doing about those? Instead of planning for failure, plan on changing into a better man.
No woman is unmoved by the loving interaction of her children with their father. (I think it's a turn on for many moms).
So Be the best dad you can be. NOW. They need you more than ever and it's a win win.
The deal is,
YOU have to show her change (not "convince" with words or arguments about what she SHOULD feel or really did feel, but forgot or refuses to see). SHE believes she is unhappily married, so she is.
So you have to SHOW HER that marriage to you, from this day forward,
can be better.
How are you doing that?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
