I think I have figured out my stand point on the EA. I am going to let it continue as I know it's a rebound and may end but if it turns physical, I am not going to be standing here like some slackjawed moron. meanwhile you think something will change backwards or turn around, if you simply do nothing? Why don't you change something in YOU now?
I am going to have to dump the house and the marriage and my poor kids will be the ones who suffer - but I am not a saint and cannot imagine forgiving an affair - especially knowing beforehand. Instead of planning how you will punish your whole family, take a stand NOW before it gets to that.
And never say never. Many of us THOUGHT we'd for sure leave if 'x' or 'y' happened, only to find that there actually is a streak of saintliness within....
Yesterday she was texting and giggling to the OM in our bedroom with me and the kids right there. Totally disrepectful. Still working out what to do on that. Saw a therapist today -she's awesome. She's not sure what to do about the texting either - said it's extremely disrepectful and very immature.
Maybe Make a phone call to a friend and talk about something hilarious or a private problem of theirs that you have to leave the room to hear about and help with...I'm not big on confronting if it's an ultimatum you are not ready to deal with
but if you really are that close to destroying the family in retailiation, why not confront sooner? I mean you can't sit there and test her waiting to see if she does IT and THEN SLAM THE DOOR on all....too preventable on your end....
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
