Are there any midlife women who want daily sex?

[25yearsmlc]

I am not saying it's abnormal to dislike lousy sex or sex that reminds you of a horrible experience.

I'm saying to not like sex AT ALL, in any form, ever, and to never have had or wanted to have a climax, is truly like saying it's okay not to taste your food. Just eat to live...

and miss out on sweet, salty, bitter and sour...ANYONE else would go see a doctor!

Denying your partner sex, isn't just denying them a "release" or moment of pleasure....

Making love has many dimensions.

They (and you) miss out on comforting your spouse in times of mourning,

or comfort and reassure when there is fear of the biopsy results,

or joyous celebratory sex when you child gets married or graduates...or you GET THAT DREAM JOB...it's for all the

warm or frightening but touching MOMENTS in life

that you want to share...FULLY...with your mate. Fully connect, fully share.

If you were okay with no sex, I'd say nothing. But you are not okay with it. And it's not just sex you are doing without, but all forms of physical touch. How sterile.


You're both missing out on so much. That's really odd. That's not just about sex. That's a tragic problem of zero touching. Humans need touch to live....literally.

Do you recall that royal experiment with language, where the infants who were not touched or spoken to when fed, were compared to those who were?

ALL of the infants who were not touched or spoken to, died....

There are enough tragedies in the world. Don't add this one to them.

Figure out why your w wants no physical contact with you and work on the r.

I don't believe for a minute that all else is fine in the marriage.

This is HER WAY of punishing you or withholding from you,

or maintaining some sort of control or possibly even punishing herself.

Not wanting you to touch her breasts or her womanly parts is

pretty odd for someone having sex.
What was allowed, eye contact? HOW'd you have kids?

Were the births hard on her? Did she tear? That IS a real issue for many women. MANY...but they get it fixed! There are treatments and procedures and There are cortisone shots too, (NOT a picnic, but hey, whatever works)

Get to the real core issue.

To me this is simple actually.

First, It's NOT about whether she likes sex, but about whether she loves you.

IF she truly loves you and isn't harboring some wacky anger or other "issues", then she would naturally want to please you EVEN IF she has zero libido.

It's like you saying you hate spicy food so you don't ever want it, but if she loves it and NEEDS it, you'd make some at least once a week...right?


I suspect this is not merely a low libido problem. It's much more than that.

If it were only low libido, you'd have SOME sex. Maybe not a lot, and maybe it wouldn't be great sex, but it would exist. You've had zero intercourse for 15 years..

I and about every woman I know, have said yes to ML, when we didn't feel like it. B/C We love our h's. We know they have needs that only we can fill, b/c making love is not just about orgasm...

and that intimacy is an essential part of marriage. Sometimes it's not about our hourly libido.

Love is a verb, not just a noun. It requires action.

So there's more to this than simply a sexual preference or low libido.

Dig much deeper.


Good luck