just wallowing in her rage and encouraging THAT "oh just justifiable anger"---instead of working through it, ----could ruin her R's with every member of her family...
25, I don't really see her as wallowing because it's only been a week. She's a 16 year old kid who was recovering from depression and an eating disorder that occurred in response to her Grandmother's terminal illness, and death. Her Grandmother was quite young and was very involved in our kid's lives and her death was very, very hard on D16. I think the kid deserves a bit of a break after the past two years she's had...and now this.
Anyway, I know D, and there is no way she would ever ruin her R with me or her brother. I hope I didn't paint a horrible picture of the child because this is a kid that we're constantly told is the sweetest, nicest, kindest child by teachers, family, friends, etc. Her Grandfather was just telling H a couple weeks ago that D is the only one of his teenage Grandaughters that will take the time to spend any of her summer with him. She cares about her family. A lot. Actually, I think that is why she is not talking to H. Because he has disrespected me and our family.
His remorse was immediate and he also began contacting a pro m MC before the OW discovery.
Yes, he has shown pretty incredible remorse BUT he did sleep with ow one more time after he contacted that MC so let's not give him the WAS of the year award quite yet.
Realizing our parents are not infallible is a painful step in the process known as "growing up." But it's a step we all have to take.
I agree but could he have done something less drastic first? Got a little drunk and threw up at the family picnic perhaps?...I know, I know, what's done is done but this is a bit more than a step. I feel like we all just threw ourselves off a cliff.
This OW is nuttier than most and that's unfortunate. OTOH he wasn't in love with her
Well, he said he thought he was in love with her for a couple months which is why he bombed me in April but after finding out that I did want the M (he believed I would not), his feeling for ow started to dwindle immediately. So again I will give H credit for being able to pull himself out of the A "fog" pretty quickly.
Is this man to be punished more B/c the kids know?
Well, I don't know if he should be punished more because the kids are involved but it sure does add to my anger. Of all the details, this is the ONE I would give anything to change.
Then again, if ow's goose wasn't quite cooked before the kids knew, it was certainly cooked, burnt and stomped on after they knew. She sealed her fate BIG TIME with that little stunt.
