Mine because I obviously didn't do a good job of showing her what she means to me.
To a healthy person you may have. To one with low self-esteem issues, is it possible to?
Think for a minute Tad. You are trying to fix, aren't you? Rehashing the "old" marriage looking for what your part was?
I suspect the thinking is something like, "well, it's broken, so I must have had something to do with it." and you are looking for that right?
What if you didn't do much to contribute to the demise? I ask because weren't you about to renew your vows? Didn't this same person profess her undying love for you just prior to walking away?
What I'm getting at is that you are, and likely will for a while, going through a post-mortem. My suggestion if this is the case, is to look honestly and objectively as much as you can. To realize that your changes must be for you and not for the marriage or her.
Own up to your faults as YOU see them. Not as she sees them. Be careful not to own things that are not yours. That would be bad for you both IMHO.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
