So to update, today was our 2nd therapy session. She did not attend, but she did talk to and is going to see this therapist on her own. The therapist seems to think that this is a good sign that she doesn't want a divorce, and that W will eventually begin T with both of us.
The therapist believes I should continue the no contact idea to giver her power over this situation. Because I am the type A of our relationship.
The therapist and I agree that she is acting very strange and juvenile and is perhaps having a mental breakdown or an early MLC. I believe I have addressed all of the problems in our M, and taken ownership of my problems in the M. The therapist is concerned that W seems not to be able to see her actions of leaving me, not communicating with me, telling friends, empathizing with my situation, and telling family about this situation - as a problem. Nor is W indicating any of her faults in our M.
W asked the therapist "why doesn't brian trust me" (regarding the changing of Locks, on the advice of counsel, which were changed back) to which the T said, "well you left him. You know where he is, he is at work or at home, taking care of both of your responsibilities. He doesn't know where you are, or what you are doing. Why would he trust you?"
This is going to be a marathon.
Heres a question, so our Brother-in-law is seems to be pushing her towards the divorce, if this gets fixed how do I rectify that?
H - 31 W - 30 No Kids Married 3 years Together 8 Bomb/Last contact with wife 8/30/2011
